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Thursday, May 10, 2012

Something For Everyone

Today has really been a rollar coaster of emotions. I started the day off by watching this video, which made me sad.

Then watched the videos that can be found at Tom & Shane which put me in a happier mood. Then I heard that Obama was all for Gay marriage which made me smile, especially after viewing the first video. I have to confess, I was never really into gay rights, not because I didn't believe in them (obviously) but because I didn't see it as big of an issue as it is. Could have been because I have no desire to marry right now, or because I don't really know all the perks and benefits of marriage, other than the spiritual aspect of it. However after hearing Shane's story it really touched me and helped me realize how important marriage equality is.

That all being said, Obama's news that he now supports and believes in same sex marriage has caused many views to be shared regarding this topic. My issue is with the religious people who say same sex marriage is wrong because of what the Bible says.

Now, let me explain a few things before I go on my rant about these "holy rollers." I am a Christian and I am also Catholic. I practice my Catholicism because I am comfortable with it and it helps me be a better person. However, this does not mean I believe EVERYTHING the Catholic church believes in or even does. It is true, religion is a man made concept and can cause more harm than good, but I do not let me religion obscure from my beliefs i.e. Equal Rights. I can go on and on about this topic but I will tie everything together with the statement that religion is to aid humans into being more spiritual, and to help them be better people. What religion is not meant to do, is to tear people apart, which is what it seems like it has been doing for thousands of years. I practice my religion because it is what I have known my whole life, but I do not believe everything they say, because religion is politics and with politics comes lies.

Moving on to my final rant, I am sick and tired of religious people in general feeling a sense of entitlement to the "Kingdom of Heaven" because they either go to church, or they volunteer, or are heterosexual. I hate to break it to you people, but you can do/be all those things and still go to hell for being a bad person!
As I recall, Jesus befriended the meek and the weak, not the strong and the powerful. If you really want to get into the "Kingdom of Heaven" you had better think twice before passing judgement on another person. Because I can almost guarantee, when we all are judged before God, (if that is what you believe in) and as a gay man I plead my life and how I tried my bes to treat others as I would have liked to be treated; that is with respect and kindess, vs. a Catholic Christian or a Mormon who justifies their intolerance for people who are different or people that have "gone against the Holy Bible (which was written by a third part, not Jesus Christ and has had MANY edits and omitted stories)"  I am willing to bet my life and soul that I will be given more mercy than the hateful religious lover.

That is my rant and those are my beliefs. I hope you watched the first video because that is what really opened my eyes to the issue of Equal Love Equal Rights  and has caused me to feel so strongly about this matter now.

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Day 3 of 30

So it is now Day 3 of my 30 Day Challenge and I am going strong! Yesterday I worked out at 10pm, and then I decided I wanted to start working out before work so I woke up at 5:45am today and headed down to the Novi Lifetime and worked it out again. Immediately after I stood on my feet for 6 hours, then onward to Cranbrook for another 3 hours. All in all, it had been an exhausting day.

I can already tell a difference in my body and energy from exercising for the past 3 days. My routine, so far, has only been running 1 mile, and working on specific areas of my body, ie. back, abs, legs. I only spend about an hour at the gym and I can honestly say I am exhausted when I leave, but a good exhausted. Which is why I'd rather workout in the morning rather than at night before bed.

One of the things I am beginning to realize is just how much exercise calms me down. I have had a lot on my mind lately and it has been nice to release some of that energy in a positive way. I hope I can inspire at least one person to get up and do something active during these 30 days. It can be as small as clenching your butt cheeks while driving on the freeway (which I have started doing in hopes of acquiring an ass) or  even running for 20 minutes every morning. And let me tell you, you may not think clenching of the buttocks is working many muscles, but I will be the first to admit that when I went down the slide at Brookside the day after I started doing this, I nearly hopped onto my feet because my ass was so sore. So, that just goes to show you that every little bit counts. :)

Have really enjoyed this song lately, thought I'd share.

Monday, April 23, 2012

30 Day Challenge

So after watching Zac Efron in "The Lucky One," I have decided it is time for me to get my butt into shape. I have decided I will embark on a 30 day challenge which will consist of making my way into a place of fitness, whether it be Planet Fitness or Lifetime, and exerting a significant amount of force on my body in order to achieve my desired physique. As of right now, I have no physical goal for myself such as  a certain weight or a certain waist size, I just want to eat properly and exercise regularly to get myself back to a gym routine. If  When I can accomplish ALL 30 days I will purchase a pair of Maui Jim's for myself prior to my 22 birthday. I think that is fair :)

As many of you may or may not know, in the past I did attend a fitness facility 5x a week and lost a significant amount of weight, however, following my move to Royal Oak in 2008 I trickeld out of a fitness lifestyle. I would like to gain some upper body strength as well as some definition in my abs, I know it will take work but I believe this 30 day kickstart is what I need to get me going for the rest of the summer and beyond.

I did go to the gym today; ran 1 mile, did some weights and got my tan on. Was a "light" day, but I have to start somewhere. I'm really excited to get back into the swing of exercising. I'm starting to remember how good I felt when I did this 5x a week.

Recently I have been discovering new music and came across this song while working at LTF


Sunday, April 1, 2012

God Always has a Plan

A lot has happened since my last post. I travelled 8,000 miles around the world to the wonderful Hong Kong, where I meet some amazing people and made new friends. I celebrated the holidays with my family as usual, but this year we seemed to be especially close. And with the New Year came a new job where I work with my clone, if I was born a few years earlier and a different gender. I have made up my mind to continue my education at the University of Michigan Ann Arbor, and pay the extra $2,500 and drive the extra 40 miles a day so I can count the colleges and universities I have attended on one hand. 




One of the most significant changes that has occurred the past few months has been the decline in my Nanu's eyesight. He can no longer drive, and has difficulty reading and viewing the TV. Because of these issues, along with my Nana's alzheimer's, our family has really stepped up and gave my grandparents the love and support they need. At least once a day someone in the family visits my grandparents, runs errands,  takes them out to eat and just provides them with company. 
In the beginning of my Nanu not being able to drive, I couldn't help but feel sorry for him. Anyone who knows my Nanu knows that he is a very proud man, and doesn't like to ask for help. However, I think as time has gone by, and continues to, both him and my Nana are feeling an immense increase in love and support from our family. When I visit them, their mood seems to be much more positive and calm, rather than depressing and hectic. Of course they have their days, but for the most part it has gotten better. This struggle. has also brought my family closer together. We all have to work as a team and communicate efficiently in order to ensure that everything important gets done. We have done this by delegating tasks to specific family members. It seems the more organized we are, the calmer and easier things are for my Nana and Nanu. 
What all of this has taught me, is that no matter what the situation may be, good or bad, you can always learn from these experiences. I used to pray that my Nana and Nanu stay safe and not let anything happen to them. Now I pray that they are happy and feel loved and know that they are not forgotten about and never feel alone. Although I still pray for their safety, I tend to stress more on the happy and loving part.
I like to think my prayers have been answered. God has a plan, and really does work in mysterious ways. 


This New Year's Eve, I seen something and heard something that I have not seen or heard in a long time and will never forget.
The ball had dropped, we were all celebrating with noise-makers and congratulating one another on a New Year. When I look over at my Nanu, who was sitting at the kitchen table, and I watch my Nana lean in and give him the warmest hug and kiss I have ever seen. Then she uttered "I hope we are here next year." 
I smiled and thought to myself, "Me too Nana, me too." 

Monday, August 1, 2011

Update? Sort of..

I clearly have not been keeping up with my blog, however I have thought about writing in it many times since my last post. I guess I just never got around to it. 

That last sentence pretty much sums up the way a lot of people live. Always THINKING about doing something, but never actually doing it. This is what I am trying to avoid doing in my life. That is part of the reason why I enjoyed reading A Place of Yes, it was all about "doing."

Currently I am searching for a job during this next year, hopefully something that will teach me new things and is not completely filled with monotonous tasks. I cannot tell you how much I hate doing things that require minimal thinking and pose no challenges. My mind is consistently working and it needs something to keep it busy!

Have you ever heard that saying, "If you want something bad enough, you'll get it." Well, I think whoever said this was on the right track, but you can't just WANT something, you have to work towards it. Wanting isn't enough, I want to win the lottery, that'd be nice wouldn't it? Too bad wanting doesn't influence what numbers are drawn. 
If you want something bad enough to do the work required to get it, you'll get it. I think that pretty much sums up my view on life right now. 

On another subject, I have come to the realization that I do not like when people pity themselves or whine. This is probably one of my biggest pet peeves. Don't come crying to me, the pity train left the station many years ago, you should have jumped on it. 
I think part of this is because I was never allowed to whine, I could cry, but not whine. 
Let me explain the difference between crying and whining. Crying is what happens when you are sad, hurt, or even happy. Whining is what happens when you don't get your way and continue to throw a fit and perhaps even shed a tear in hopes the person you are whining to will pity you and give in. I admit, I have whined before, but make no mistake, my Mom never put up with it. I remember one time I was whining to my Mom about something while she was making dinner and she opened the drawer and started chasing my around the house with a wooden spoon. I don't remember whining after that.
I guess at a young age I grasped the concept that people shouldn't whine and I have tried my best not to put up with whiners since. 

Lately I have been getting more connected with my "inner self" and refuse to give anyone pity who asks for it. I will pity the homeless man begging on the street, or the three legged dog. However, I don't feel pity for someone that just spent $40 on a dinner but cannot afford to leave a descent tip, or the people that bitch and moan 24/7 over Facebook. come on people, we don't care about how much your life sucks. If it sucks that bad maybe you should get off Facebook and take control. 
That really sums it up. 

I hope to write another post tomorrow about my future trips taking place in the next 3 months...


Saturday, April 2, 2011

A PLACE of YES

So I have been really frustrated and confused lately about my life and what I want to do with it. Today I skipped my two morning classes and slept in and also watched The Wendy Williams Show who just happened to have Bethenny Frankel on as a guest and she happened to be promoting her new book "A PLACE of YES." Bethenny gives a list of 10 rules in this book and one of the rules happened to be "Separate From the Pack," which was Wendy's favorite chapter and she asks Bethenny to explain what exactly she means buy this. I wont go into too much detail but Bethenny basically said that in order to achieve your goals in life you need to embrace yourself and not try and follow the path of others, in other words, don't follow the norm just because it is the norm. If you want to be successful you have to highlight what makes you different from everyone else go with your gut.

This really got me thinking about ways I can "separate from the pack" so to speak. Prime example of something small I did today that symbolizes this, I was leaving the Westland Mall and needed to go to Target, which is right across the street. Instead of driving across I wanted to walk, but the first thought that popped into my head was "I'll look like a dummy crossing Warren Rd." then I threw that thought out of my head and walked across the street anyways. I can't say this is some dramatic change but I believe it is a step in the right direction in things I can change on a small level that will eventually lead to bigger things that will have a greater impact on my life.
So while at Target I was browsing through the headphones and I came across these funky looking headphones which are supposed to clip on to your ears while your being active so they do not fall out.
This is another example of how I "separated from the pack." These were more practical for what I wanted to use them for, working out, and roughly $1.50 cheaper, but they did look rather funny. So I really hesitated on purchasing these because I was worried of what other people would think. However I did end up making the right decision because later on, while at the gym, they did stay in my ears mush better than the skullcandy headphones. 
After getting my new headphones I went to look in the book section, which I NEVER do, and happened to come across Bethenny Frankel's new book. 
I never purchase books, but I did end up purchasing this one. I really felt that I needed something to push me in the right direction or at least get me thinking more about myself. I began reading this while at the gym, on the elliptical, and I must say I am only 40 pages into it and I already love it. I really think Bethenny hits the nail on the head with the advice she is giving in this book. She forces you to look into your own life and ask the question "Is this what I want? Or is this just "good enough." I really respect her for all she has been through from her childhood to her current life, she really is an inspiration with the things she has accomplished.  I encourage you to read her book.

Usually I do not write "reviews" on things, but I feel like this book is really a good start to helping me find my path and wanted to share. :)
On another note. I won $10 on a $2 scratch off ticked tonight! I went to fill up on gas and I went to buy a scratch off and ended up scratching it in the car and didn't realize I won, luckily I didnt toss it, until I took a second look at it and had to question whether 9 was an even or odd number (don't judge it was late) next thing I know I am holding two $5 bills :)  I know this is going to sound corny but I briefly hesitated prior to purchasing this ticket, but the thought of Bethenny's book popped into my head and for whatever reason I changed my mind and bought a lotter ticket anyways. Funny stuff. 



Monday, March 28, 2011

YouTube Artists, Cabbage Soup and Green Lantern Pizza

Man, I didn't realize how white I am until I watched this video! Hello tanning! lol
Also, I apologize for the amount of times I use the word "like."
FYI- My friends and I still act like that towards each other...